¶ … birth order in children and how they communicate with their parents. Specifically, it will discuss why children talk to their parents in different ways because of their birth order. To get a good grasp of this the paper will explain the specific characteristics of the children. Many researchers believe that where we are born in a family will continually influence how we develop throughout our lives. Birth order certainly can create different behaviors in children, including how they communicate with their parents. Birth order is not the only influence on our personalities, but it is a compelling influence almost from the moment we are born. Birth order is an important quality in the overall makeup of a child's personality and how they deal with the world. Where a child fits into the family can affect the rest of his or her life, and it can have a lot to do with the way they communicate with others, especially their parents. Each order of birth shares some general characteristics that make them unique, and help them blend with the rest of the family.

First Born - first born children receive the most attention from their new parents, at least until another child makes an appearance, and so they develop leadership tendencies early on. Their characteristics include "perfectionism, reliability, conscientious, list-makers, well-organized, critical, serious, scholarly, achievers, self-sacrificing, people-pleasers, conservative, supporter of law and order, believer in authority and ritual, legalistic, loyal, and self-reliant" (Editors). Firstborns are achievers, and may go on to higher aspirations than their siblings. They may become engineers, doctors, scientists, accountants, lawyers, or jobs that take precision and mental discipline (Editors). Firstborns exude confidence, and often go on to be leaders. In fact, "Fifty-two percent of United States presidents were firstborns (only four have been babies of their families)" (Editors). Firstborns can also influence the younger children in the family, and take on more adult chores as they grow old enough to help the parents take care of the other siblings.

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Firstborns are naturally inquisitive, and will ask their parents many questions as they grow older. Firstborns expect parents and siblings to express their opinions before the firstborn will, because they often have trouble talking about what they feel or need. They also want their parents to understand and approve of their goals, although they may not be able to ask for this approval (Isaacson and Radish). They often give nonverbal clues that parents may have to notice. They are often willing to please, and willingly do their parents' bidding, thereby alienating some of their younger siblings. They often have difficulty saying "no," especially to their parents. A firstborn child may relate more closely to the father than the mother Cunningham-Blanke).
Middle Child - the middle child can be the most difficult to compartmentalize and characterize, because they can develop quite contradictory characteristics. Some characteristics of the middle child include mediating or avoiding conflict, independent and extremely loyal, and frequently the child in the family who goes astray. They may be quiet and shy, or friendly and outgoing, impatient and easily frustrated or easygoing and laid back. They can be very competitive, or not at all, and they can be the catalyst that brings the family together, or the "black sheep" that tears it apart (Editors). Notably, the firstborn can heavily influence the middle child, who in turn can influence the younger child.

Middle children are natural mediators and peacemakers, so they learn to communicate on all sides of an argument. They are also very social, and tend to mix well with a lot of people, so they make good managers. Middle children want to help others, and they will mediate when their parents or their siblings are having a fight. They may seem critical, but they simply want to help their parents achieve "perfection." They like to hear their parents tell them they pay attention to details (Isaacson and Radish). Middle children will often give constructive criticism, even to parents, and tell them how to improve. Often, they…